I don’t wanna be your friend…

Posted on May 7, 2011 by misskatehate

I used to feel guilty if I didn’t pay attention to guys that spent a lot of money on me via phone, etc. outside the club. With the exception of Bill the Hobbyist (who I have a special arrangement with, and he understands my limitations and real life personality which he likes just fine as companionship), I don’t really “make friends” with guys in the club, because it is emotionally draining for me. “Brooklyn” is a very outgoing, jovial, party-girl type personality whereas “Kate” is agoraphobic, introverted and quiet. I work more than the average stripper (4-5 days a week as opposed to 2 or 3) and to have to be Brooklyn any more than that is too much for me. I find that the guys that try to be your friend outside the club don’t really just want to be friends and they usually have more insidious motives behind what they’re doing and tend to be SUPER needy when it comes to attention. For me, that’s just too much. I need days to recharge, spend time with my fiancé and just be Kate. Everyone thinks they’ll adore me just as much outside the club, but when they realize I’m moody and quiet they tell me I’m a bitch, etc. So, to maintain my own sanity and the illusion of awesomeness, no, I won’t let patrons into my “real” life.

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I just made this list of set list songs

Posted on May 5, 2011 by misskatehate

because I’m feeling shitty today and I’ll need a pick-me-up at work.

1. Jane Fonda- Mickey Avalon

2. I’m am NOT a WHORE- LMFAO

3. Don’t want no Short Dick Man- 20 Fingers

4. Stripper- Lords Of Acid

5. Mr. Personality- 20 Fingers

6. Judas- Lady Gaga

7. None of Your Business- Salt n’ Peppa

8. Set it Off- Peaches

9. Bossy- Kelis

10, Ohhh La La- Goldfrapp

11. Come Baby Come- K7

12. Pussy- Lords Of Acid

13. Wet- Snoop Dog

14. Oops, Oh My- Tweet

15. What About Your Friends- TLC

16. Ain’t 2 Proud 2 Beg- TLC

17. Creep- TLC

18. Red Light Special- TLC

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Q&A with Kate Hate (originally posted on Tumblr)

Posted on May 4, 2011 by misskatehate

Anonymous asked: What is something that guys should work on when looking to go out with a girl?

DO NOT BE PUSHY. When it comes to anything. The thing I hate most about guys is when they’re pushy. Pushy to talk, pushy to fuck, whatever. Let her decide. If she likes you and is into it, she’ll go for you. Otherwise, you’ll just make her uncomfortable and resentful.

Anonymous asked: When was your first kiss, first fuck, last fuck?

First kiss- 15 y/o, first fuck- 17 y/o, last fuck- saturday afternoon.

Anonymous asked: If I had to take one book with me to read on my next long-haul flight what would you suggest?

I would suggest Lunar Park by Brett Easton Ellis or something old and Russian because I would have a lot of time to concentrate.

Anonymous asked: Do those dancer shoes hurt your feet after you have been in them for a while?

Yes. But you get used to it. I barely notice any more, but every so often my baby toes act up, and I have bone spurs in between my pinky toes and the ones next to them from the shoes that sometimes hurt really fucking bad.

Anonymous asked: Why so you call yourself Kate Hate?

When I was in college I was a total asshole when I would drink/use drugs, which is why I don’t do either anymore (except and occasional drink). My friends started calling me that. Plus, rhyming is fun.

Anonymous asked: What’s your fave type of dancer shoe and what size do you wear?

Pleaser motif’s in 7inch and I wear a size 7. I’ve already collected the money, lace and cupcake print ones.

fuckablezombie asked: Favorite places online to get bras/knickers/stockings/et cetera. Cliched question I know but when I’m done with my word count for the day I windowshop on the interwebs. :)

I am the worst person to answer this question lol. I buy most of my out of work stuff from H&M, Rainbow, Deb, Joyce Leslie and the like. Sometimes my sugar daddy takes me here: http://www.renerofe.com/ when he is in town because they have sexy shit and the outlet store is really cheap and I don’t go over my spending limit for the day very quickly. I also buy my work stuff from above place and an outfit lady that comes to me at the club. Underwear is the one thing I will leave the house to buy. I buy all my clothes either online or at the mall when my S.D. is in town because I’m agoraphobic and don’t like to be alone when I go out. Strange for a stripper, huh?

jesterproductions asked: How was your day?

It was actually pretty great. I wore a new outfit, conquered my agoraphobia for a few hours and got some things done outside the house. I also got a shout out for an email I wrote to and a follow from Coke Talk, who I think is real cool. I listed to Tyler the Creator almost all day and Zac was nice to me. Thanks for asking, how was yours?

Anonymous asked: What is your favorite thing to talk about at work?

What music I’m going to dance to, and learning how to do booty tricks.

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My most recent stage set music, or “My booty shaking anthems”:

Posted on April 8, 2011 by misskatehate

In light of the fact I was recently asked to do a guest spot about stripper music on titsandsass.com, I figured I’d let you guys know what I’m dancing to lately.

\”Did It On \’Em\”- Nicki Minaj

Probably the only time I ever felt sexy hearing the phrase “Yeah I just shitted on ‘em”. Nicki Minaj is pretty much the patron saint of the strippers at my club. I mean the girl has “pink wig thick ass give ‘em whip lash” down to a science. She also has soulful songs such as “Moment 4 Life” which we can relate to. She also uses the line “Throw some fresh ones”.

\”Miss Me\”- Drake

Whereas Nicki is our saint, Drake is like our boyfriend. There’s a verse in this song where he waxes poetic about strippers: “I don’t judge her, I don’t judge her, but I could never love her. Cause to her I’m just a rapper and soon she’ll have met another”.

\”Money to Blow\”- Birdman

Despite the extreme over-use of auto-tune on Drake’s voice in this song , I really enjoy this song and it seems that the custies do too. I find they often decide all of a sudden have “money to blow” once this song comes on. Also, who doesn’t want to be on a 24/hr champagne diet when they are working at a strip club 5 days a week? It makes it seem way more glamorous.

\”Bring it Back\”- Travis Porter

The PERFECT booty shaking song. I pull out all of the ass-clapping, ass cheek muscle control tricks I know. Standing up. On all fours. Crouching. Which leads me to….

\”Make it Rain\”- Travis Porter

One of my favorite things about stripper is having money literally THROWN at me. This song is a total club banger. It’s a bit insulting, but if you can get past the fact that the words “bitch” and “ho” are used about 1,000 times and concentrate on the female’s message of “I’m not dancing for your trick ass unless you fucking pay me”, it’s pretty enjoyable to shake it to. Originally this song was played in the dressing room every weekend after the Saturday night shift. We would all dance around and do our booty shaking tricks while getting ready to go home. Lots of girl on girl “freak dancing” (does anyone say that anymore?) also would occurred. That is until one legendary day, my stage partner and I decided we would dance to it on stage to make all the girls happy. We got in trouble because it’s a little too hard core for our club, but somehow convinced the manager to let us dance to it “only on Saturday”.

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Drama Rama!

Posted on March 18, 2011 by misskatehate

Although I mentioned how much I love stripping in my last post, some times, the politics of the club get in my way. I’ve been at the same club for 4 years, which gives me privilege, but also makes me so ingrained in the lives of the people that work there that things can turn into sticky situations really quickly. Throw in boredom, competition, cattiness (it’s like one big sorority) and people that just love fucking with you and the trouble gets amped up by about a million. For example, I have a sex show partner. She’s a very beautiful, slim, dark cocoa complected, with a very nice behind. I also have a best friend that works there. The manager has never given me and the partner a main stage sex show, though he gives women of questionable looks/weight/drug use main stage shows. My best friend and partner were practicing pole tricks in the back and the manager told them they should do shows together, although I’ve been begging him for shows for the last two months. One thing leads to another, other people get involved, people start lying to me and making things way deeper than they should be and BAM, my night’s ruined and my confidence is gone. Partner is mad because she doesn’t like the gossip mill, best friend is trying to explain to me what REALLY happened and people that are bored are trying to make me question my friends truthfulness. Things like this make me wish I was the anonymous new girl again, instead of the well known, looked up to, some-people-get-jealous-of Black Swan I’ve turned into.

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Pros of being an Exotic Dancer.

Posted on March 16, 2011 by misskatehate

Many people view my line of work as dirty, morally void, disgusting and worse. That’s ok, I enjoy being on the outskirts of society, the Siberia of society in fact. I like the late nights, the dirty looks. I have fun taunting men, coercing them onto a couch and moving sensually on their laps for 20 bucks a pop. I love that I get to dress up and go out 5 nights a week, and no one bitches at me, because it’s my job. I like getting paid to flirt. I like when women come in, nervous, but full of excitement and lust for experimentation. I enjoy running around half naked for 5-7 hours and having it be socially acceptable. I love the confidence stripping has given me. The opportunity to do whatever I feel like doing. The freedom.

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Posted on March 16, 2011 by misskatehate

All my stripper books from amazon.com plus dancing at the blue iguana came today. N. made a comment that it was like watching work. I didn’t realize it until watching it for the 87th time. So I have Miss Cody’s memoirs and a book on the psychology of exotic dancing from both the customer and the dancer. I’m very excited about reading the books and I’m watching the movie right now.

Last night was tough. D. came in and was wasted. He dropped a lot of money, but it was a lot of tiring work for me. He’s the perfect customer when he’s sober, but as soon as he gets some booze in him he starts to freak me out. Heaving breathing in my ear, describing all the ways he wants to violate me. Being mean to the other dancers. I had to yell at him several times to be nice to the other girls because while I might get his d-bag sense of humor, the other girls do not. So I put up with it from 7-12 then asked him for cab fare home because I was “tired”.

I did something to my knee. When I’m onstage, doing my floor work, or standing up making my ass clap, I’ll suddenly get a searing pain in my knee. I’m a bit concerned that i tore something. I’m going to ride it out for another week and see what happens.

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Originally posted 3/8/08 on hostilecityjane.com

Posted on March 16, 2011 by misskatehate

I just did a photoshoot AND my first trampling session. It was sooo much fun. I never thought I’d get so much enjoyment stepping all over a guy and squashing his cock with my sneaker. He loved it!! It was quite the adrenaline rush and I was giggling the whole time.

I went to the gallery today and found 40 dollar Nike Dunks, and a bunch of other shit. But again people were rude to me. I fucking hate The Gallery. 95% of their employees have sticks shoved up their asses and treat customers like they’re pieces of shit. I am the nicest, most polite customer in the world and they still shit on me when I go in there. Especially at K-Mart. I’m so close to calling the manager of The Gallery K-Mart and tell them they need to have a meeting with their employees about being kind to customers.

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The Brothers

Posted on March 16, 2011 by misskatehate

Tonight was interesting for sure. I was ahead in dances in the beginning and then things slowed down for me around 10. At 12:30 these brothers came in and were both totally weirdly enamoured with me. I spent almost an hour trying to get them to get a private room together, which would cost them 300, and I would make 200 along with the other 200 I had already made. They finally agreed and we all headed in there. It was really weird because they were totally into watching each other get dances from me and touching me (in the ok places) while I was giving the other a dance. They were pretty sweet guys, just a little weird, maybe they grew up with too much money.

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I used to be a doormat…

Posted on January 5, 2011 by misskatehate

I used to be a doormat. I would let people fuck with me. Instead of standing up for myself, I would cry. Stripping has changed this. It has helped me demand more for myself. Showed me how to own my body. I no longer feel the need to have sex to “be nice” and “make people like me”. I don’t allow people to do things to me that make me uncomfortable and get away with it. I don’t allow people to make me feel guilty for not doing things their way and/or not letting them get their way. However, this has caused a huge problem in my relationship. At the beginning, I was still in a transitional phase of doormat to strong person. Now, I act like a “fucking bitch” when I tell him I don’t appreciate the way he’s talking to me or the fact that he’s criticizing every thing I do. I’ve learned to stand up for myself and I am shown ever day how absolutely unattractive some people find back bones. Between my life outside the club, and my life inside, I find many people don’t expect me to strike back when spoken down to, etc. And when I do, they get incredibly, unjustifiably insulted. Stop expecting people to behave how you want, and realize people have their own personalities, ways of doing things and lives. /endrant

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